Where can I find a nice, single, straight man?
About a year and a half ago I divorced my husband. Soon after, I began dating a man that I met through the personals. That relationship lasted about a year, but this spring I began to realize that it had pretty much run its course.
Now I am single, 28 and a mother of one. I really am not very good at meeting quality men, although I feel that I am relatively attractive, a professional (teacher) and have a fun, outgoing personality. However, every time that I go out with friends, I always feel old, awkward and completely out of it regarding what is considered cool these days. Every guy I meet is either a total scumball (who only has one thing on his mind) or already attached. Are there any nice, single, straight guys left out there, and if there are, where can I find them?
It's not that you have trouble meeting men (are the ex-husband and ex-boyfriend chopped liver?). It sounds like you're just understandably reeling from your recent losses.
It also sounds as if you've spent most of your adult life in one romantic relationship or another. My recommendation isn't to play the personals (though it's a viable way to meet quality men if you approach it with caution and realistic expectations) but to first get comfortable being on your own.
You need to give yourself time to decompress before you leap back into the scene. It's not that there aren't great straight, single men out there, it's that you're not in the proper mindframe to recognize them. Once you calm down and get comfortable in your own skin, start liking yourself as a person irregardless of whether you're part of a couple, that's when you should attempt dating re-entry.
And don't think of yourself as "old," just mature for your age. And being a seasoned woman at the ripe young age of 28 is appealing to men who are tired of dating girls!
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